She’s not all antisocial. She’s not lying alone in her beds, staring at her phone and waiting for someone to call and make plans, to invite her to do things.
She’s not blowing you off because she has something better planned.
The truth is she likes being alone. She appreciates good company of course, but that’s not the only thing that she looks forward to. Just because she sometimes looks and acts like she doesn’t know how to talk to people, how to interact, how to make friendships or relationships stick, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want a person, or people around her.
It’s the exact opposite.
There is so much more to a girl who likes her own space than she will ever lead on.
Because she has hobbies that she doesn’t need a companion for. She knows what she wants to do, she knows what makes her happy.
And trust me, she really isn’t willing to put her wants and needs on hold because someone doesn’t support them or understand them.
Because she has been there before.
She used to be a social butterfly, out every night, making tons of plans with every person she ever knew.
Until she finally saw that not everyone in her life needed to be her friend. Not every guy she dated had something to offer and not every BFF saw her and liked her for the things that she wanted to do for herself.
She’s very down to earth, and when everyone she knows is out, hanging out, doing the same things they would do by themselves with friends, she smiles.
Because she knows that she needs to take care of herself. Mind, body and spirit.
And she doesn’t believe that interaction is something that should never be turned of.
She has time to think, to listen, to observe, to wonder, to dream.
She might even be the smartest girl you will ever meet.
And the most loyal.
Because when she does makes connections, she does everything in her power to keep them, whatever it takes, she’s always down to make something work. Be it a friendship or relationship.
It’s not that she’s closed of, that she isn’t fun, it’s just that she’s too smart and seen too much to make time for anyone who doesn’t make time for her.
So the next time that you met a girl like this and think to yourself, she must be really lonely, remember that she has done this by choice, not by force.
And for that, she’s stronger than most anyone you will ever have the pleasure of knowing.